When it was over between me and this guy, I thought I would never hear back from him again. That wasn’t true. After some time passed, he continued to text, call and reach out to me every blue moon to talk about what I would call a whole bunch of somethings that meant absolutely nothing. At one point, my mind got the best of me and I thought he was contacting me because he cared. Sadly, that felt good because in our situationship I felt totally rejected by him, so to get this attention even if under bad circumstances soothed me and was a bit comforting. In my mind, I was thinking, “he still thinks about me, he does care or he actually does miss me.” All of those thoughts were false. Why, you ask? He doesn’t give a rat’s butt about me, I’m going to keep it real with you because if he did, he would respect me and the space I needed to heal. What he does care about is getting my attention. It’s an ego stroke for him to know that I still care or I’ll still respond to his foolishness and that makes him feel good to know he still has a place in my heart.
Sis, the truth is there are some selfish people in the world and they will use you to feel better about themselves. I can’t call every situation and I won’t try to but be aware that just because he still contacts you every now and then, it’s not because he cares, it’s because he wants your attention to fill a void. Next time he hits you up, I challenge you to get out of your feelings and be attentive to what’s really going on. Don’t be someone’s pawn in the game of chess. Save your energy, your emotions and your feelings for someone worthy of all your love.
Remember, he doesn’t want you, he wants your attention.