I used to love pain.
Yes, you read that correctly. I enjoyed learning lessons the hard way. By definition, I was insane because I willingly kept going back to the same guys who did’nt have my best interest at heart. When they apologized, bought me gifts to make up for their mistakes or lied about how much they loved me, I always came back. It took me getting hurt pretty badly to wake up and let go. But why? Why weren’t the red flags enough for me to leave? What about the indicators that he wasn’t that into me? What about his lack of commitment? Did I really think things would change or get better?
Well, I’m done seeing the steaming hot pot and sticking my finger in it thinking that it won’t burn me, then it eventually does.
Now, I know that God gives us signs for a reason. In our gut, we feel when things are wrong for a reason. Our spirit is unsettled for a reason. It’s not called intuition for just any reason. Most importantly, God didn’t outline the definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 for just any reason. While God can turn a heartache into a testimony (I can testify), he doesn’t desire that we learn everything the hard way. Some hurt is completely unnecessary and can be avoided.
Think about an unhealthy person in your life. How many times do you have to get burned or will it require that he/she continues to hurt you to the depths of your soul before you finally let go?